Thinking about the different kinds of relationships, and trying to distill them to their essences. Here's what i have so far...
Parent Parent
Child Child
Adult Adult
Teacher Teacher
Student Student
Consumer Professional
Professional Consumer
Performer Audient (One member of audience - the receiver)
Audient Performer
Now draw lines to connect between these roles. For example, a Child can relate to a Teacher, or a Teacher to a Parent, a Teacher to a Teacher, or Performer to an Audient. The question arises: What relationship are you having now with whoever you are talking to? Sometimes relationships get fuzzy, and one is not clear. I am proposing the idea of clarity. What do you think?
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Oddly there is a relationship to roles in which we play each day.
At times we may be the parent, or the teacher, or the consumer. The listener or the performer
Yet the flow from one to the other requires a different perspective all come from the same source.
How to flow from this holding on to that rope again is the question?
Like actors on the stage of the world, our different roles are just costumes that we inhabit and then shed. Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves, others and the world we inhabit.
Yet, we all leave our roles our relationships as they are in constant flux,
Our source remains the same, how we reflect this source has to change with each role we play each relationship we connect to.
I see a (that) mirror that bounces light as you change its angle.
Can you see it too?
Salaam dear Shaykh,
It has just occurred to me that there are two types of relationship, those that are given us, which includes family, and those that are chosen, such as friends and marriage partners. However, although some relationships are by choice i ask myself 'who' has made those choices. If my powers of discernment are not guided by a focus on Allah but are instead clouded by emotional needs and the inadequacies of the ego matrix then i am not making a true choice. But i do have the opportunity of learning the lessons without which i would discover nothing about myself. In that sense i feel all relationships are given by Allah because there is always something to learn. If i seek clarity in my relationships isn't it best if i look at my responses to a person and ask for guidance? Look inside rather than outside? Learn to love and to pull out the weeds inside?
Salaam Dear Shaykh,
Recently i have been reflecting on the need for courage in some relationships, for example the courage to be honest, and i have been asking how to draw on that courage within when i really need it. Just now i read your post on relationships again and was struck by the word 'audient'. It suddenly clicked for me as i remembered my times as a performer. Before every performance i would feel sick with nerves for about two days and feel more like running away than stepping on to the stage. After about ten seconds on the stage a complete change would occur, no more nerves, just a complete presence in the dance. This memory has now come back to me like a gift to teach me courage by being 'present in Allah'.
Alhamdulillah!
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